Posts with the category “abbas-heart”

Having someone in your family come out as trans is not just affecting parents. We are increasingly seeing the effects of this on siblings and even occasionally on adults whose own parent has declared that they now identify as a different sex.For parents, there is much angst and a myriad of questions. Research would indicate that it is not only Christian parents who find this difficult to navigate....  Read More

My morning devotional concluded with a number of questions.  One that jumped out at me asked this, “when I share the gospel, do I change the message in anyway?This is a thought provoking question, especially when barraged by many from the LGBTQ+ community who are seeking a god who accepts them, just as they are.  Is the temptation for us to try and lead them into a relationship with Jesus so great...  Read More

Your child has just told you they will no longer respond to the name you gave them at birth; they have a new name and are demanding that you must use it. Or conversely you may be the child, you now go by a new name, but your parents refuse to use it or even engage in conversation over it.This is a familiar story to many of the individuals we work with, one that’s not easy to navigate. But there ha...  Read More

This Christmas our hearts are with the many families who will sit with an empty space at the table where a son or daughter once sat.  Our heart for 2025 is to see reconciliation between parents and LGBTQ+ children who have come from Christian homes, and we are already working on some resources to encourage conversation.This poem is for all our Abba’s Heart members.GOD’S CHILDUnto us a child is bor...  Read More

This week I was told that someone who had looked at our website had complained that, “I was dogmatic about my truth.”  They were someone with more liberal views on the nature of what the Bible teaches about sexuality, and who disagreed with the more conservative views of this ministry.I don’t get upset over people who disagree with my beliefs, I see it as “job done”, when I share testimony and wha...  Read More

We have to admit to a degree of excitement as TBGL is hosting its first overseas retreat in just over one weeks’ time.  Previously we have held our annual get togethers in the UK, and we have enjoyed some great teaching and times of passionate worship, and firm friendships have been formed. We've been very blessed that some of our members from the US have made the trip in the past, so it's even mo...  Read More

Psalm 139 is my favourite Psalm and one that I have been reminded of three times this morning and it’s only just 9am!Why is this Psalm so special to me? Having spend 30 plus years in the wilderness, that is, apart from God, doing my own thing, I can attest to that fact that there was nowhere I went where I escaped him.  Sure, I stuffed thoughts of him down, I tried to find my significance and wort...  Read More

What does God want to say to the person who identifies as LGBTQ+, and how does it differ from what they're hearing from Christians?Sadly, we live in a world where many Christians are very judgmental, and seemingly unable to love the sinner while hating the sin. That's a phrase that's often used (not one I'm very keen on), but not applied well.As this ministry has been conducting some research into...  Read More

It's an exciting time for us as a ministry as we launch our first in person Abba’s Heart group next month.  From our earliest days we had a vision of multiplication, and this is a huge step forward in enabling us to reach more people around the world. Abba’s Heart groups are places where Christian parents and grandparents can gather together and share their experiences.  This helps families to pro...  Read More

This week I've been contacted by a Mum whose daughter is transitioning.  Her daughter sent her a picture that simple said:"They all said the same thing about my Transition, be patient with your Mom."The sad thing is, we are not seeing that patience from many of the children who are transitioning.  There is often a high demand on Christian parents to compromise their beliefs and affirm their child,...  Read More

It is unlikely that your child or teen won’t have their own ideas about Pride and may speak with some authority about it.It’s important therefore that if you are going to talk about this with your kids you have formed your own views and know why you hold them. Part of that may mean you say to your kids ‘I’m on a journey of discovering all about this’ or ‘I’ve not quite made up my mind yet’, or eve...  Read More

Pete Greig writes a great book about unanswered prayer, which has also been made into an easily accessible course online – The Prayer Course II – unanswered prayer.  He talks about the wrestle with huge issues, for him his wife's battle with illness, and the cry of a heart when we feel abandoned by God.Every week faithful parents from around the world are meeting to pray for their children who hav...  Read More

As Christians we are aware that there is a spiritual battle, a “good v evil” if you like.  God, who is good, has made us to his own intricate and perfect design.  Satan, who is evil, is doing everything to twist that design to convince us to reject God. In the battle over our sexual identity, Satan’s thinking is surely, if they believe they were born this way, then they will either blame God for t...  Read More

I’m sure many Christians are dismayed at the amount of time spent on debating what God’s Word says about homosexuality, and how we as churches must respond to those who want equality in marriage.  This is a huge distraction for church leaders and while their focus is on this, their eyes are turned from our great commission, namely, to make disciples of all nations.  Rather, many leaders today are ...  Read More

Something struck me afresh this morning as I was reading the book of Job.  It's OK to ask “why?” questions, but all too often we turn our questions against God in an accusatory way. When you consider all the people affected by questions of sexuality and faith, you see that many have, ‘why?’ questions.  When I first came to faith, I questioned God vociferously, constantly querying why I was born ga...  Read More

This is a question we hear repeatedly, and it’s not a question that’s reserved solely for Christian parents.  Despite what the media portrays, this is not an easy conversation for most parents to have.  It is almost certainly going to come as a huge shock with a whole host of side questions, many of which come from our own place of fear of the unknown.‘How did I not know?’, ‘When did this happen?’...  Read More

The story of Nehemiah is one that has many lessons for us.  As Nehemiah heard of the devastation back home, the destruction of the city and the danger those who survived the exile were in, he wept, he fasted, and he sought God, confessing the sins of the nation and reminding God of the covenant He had made with Moses.When reading this yesterday I thought about the devastation we face in the 21st c...  Read More

Sometimes when you write, you have no idea if the person you are directing your thoughts at will ever read them.  But, when God puts thoughts on your heart, I believe it is well worth recording them, because he has a great way of directing people to the right place at the right time.  Even within this Ministry, we have had people contact us for support, who cannot even tell us how they stumbled ac...  Read More

It has been our privilege over the past few weeks to lead two Bible studies from Mary Comm’s book, “Uncommon Love, a Bible study for parents of kids with same-sex attraction.”  Whilst both groups had a different dynamic, it was so encouraging to see the growth and change in the parents who have attended.  The study is a comprehensive evaluation of scripture, and how it speaks into the way we love ...  Read More

Lessons from DanielFor those unfamiliar with Daniel, it’s a great book and well worth a read as it speaks deeply into identity in a broken and unfamiliar world. Chapter 4 tells of the dream of the King, Nebuchadnezzar.  This dream shows him as a mighty tree, a tree which provided food and shelter for its people.  This tree was visible to the ends of the earth, which speaks of the magnitude of the ...  Read More

In his book “Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Family Healing,” author Richard Cohen lays out his suggestion that there are 10 factors we can look at which may contribute to children developing same sex attraction.  Looking at these factors myself, I can also see how some of them may also be factors that are at play when previously heterosexual adults find themselves attracted to the same...  Read More

If your teenager comes out as gay or has already come out as gay then you are not alone in the Christian community, there are many other families who walk the path with you. We have taken some of the advice given on an online Christian peer support group, some from parents who have recently found out their son or daughter is gay, and some from parents who have been dealing with this for many years...  Read More

Ephesians 6: 12-13 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.Bible believing Chri...  Read More

Prodigal come home – the cry of the Father’s heart to the children who were brought up in church, yet have been drawn away by the empty promises of the world.The NLT version of the Bible tells us in Proverbs 22:6 – “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”My personal experience of this is so true.  I was brought up in church and taught Biblical tr...  Read More

As we get close to a New Year, the words “Hope Shouts Louder” have been placed on my heart.  Credit must go to Rebecca Townley and Rosie Godfrey, the authors of “Hope Shouts Louder”, as the title, and content of their book spoke deeply to my heart.  The phrase has been rattling around my mind for the past few days and I believe it is a significant message from the Lord for our Ministry and the peo...  Read More

Never underestimate the power of a praying parent, sister, brother, grandparent or friend.  Satan is targeting children of Christian families and luring them away with the promise of fulfilment, acceptance and a new identity that’s applauded and celebrated by the world.  We know that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of t...  Read More