Posts with the category “lgbtq”
by Sarah Sedgwick on February 6th, 2024
I read with interest Emily Sargent’s article in the Times, 31 January 2024 titled – “Conversion therapy? It must be banned. I should know.” Reading this article, led me to delve deeper into Emily Sargent’s work, and I discovered a series of seven podcasts called “Thinking Straight,” which explore conversion therapy, and advocates for an extensive ban. Emily is a non-Christian, lesbian reporter, a...
Not "born this way"
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 8th, 2024
I am reading a fascinating book called Mercy Triumphs over Judgment, by Joanne Highley. Joanne brings so much experience, wisdom, and knowledge to the Christian response to homosexuality. In response to those who suggest that homosexuality is something that we are born with, she comes back with what I feel is the perfect response.“The truth is God would never create people as homosexuals and then ...
Shining the spotlight
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 3rd, 2024
Today we simply wanted to shine. the spotlight on our TBGL groups, because we have a passion to ensure that no one who is on the journey of exploring sexuality and faith for themselves, feels alone. We want everyone to have access to a community of like-minded Christians who support and encourage each other. That is why we are so committed to our peer support (TBGL) groups. These groups allow lik...
To the point of idolatry
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 14th, 2023
Do you struggle with emotional dependency – OK let’s spell that out – do you have a relationship / friendship with someone who you feel you could not exist or function without? Is this person central to your life to the point maybe of idolatry?If this describes you, or simply makes you stop and think for a moment about some of the relationships you are in, you may be subject to a form of addictio...
Some of us choose to reject the world’s label
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 25th, 2023
In the UK there is still a lot of unrest around the proposed legislation for banning conversion therapy. The aim of those proposing this ban is “to improve the lives of LGBT people.”I am all for lives being improved and am against any form of psychological or physical abuse against anyone. I am also very mindful that not all LGBT people are the same, there are many different views, experiences a...
If my people will humble themselves
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 4th, 2023
The story of Nehemiah is one that has many lessons for us. As Nehemiah heard of the devastation back home, the destruction of the city and the danger those who survived the exile were in, he wept, he fasted, and he sought God, confessing the sins of the nation and reminding God of the covenant He had made with Moses.When reading this yesterday I thought about the devastation we face in the 21st c...
Be in the conversation
by Sarah Sedgwick on September 12th, 2023
Sometimes when you write, you have no idea if the person you are directing your thoughts at will ever read them. But, when God puts thoughts on your heart, I believe it is well worth recording them, because he has a great way of directing people to the right place at the right time. Even within this Ministry, we have had people contact us for support, who cannot even tell us how they stumbled ac...
Living with an identity you can't walk in
by Sarah Sedgwick on August 31st, 2023
Something has been bothering me for a little while now, and I feel compelled to put some thoughts on paper. You may have heard of side A and side B Christians, terms commonly used to describe the two main approaches to Christian sexuality. Side A promoting the idea that you can be an openly gay Christian, and side B teaching a more traditional biblical sexual ethic, of being same-sex attracted b...
Overcoming sexual sin
by Guest Blogger on July 31st, 2023
I struggled for many years with sexual sin. It was my “go to” way for comforting myself each time I struggled with emotional pain. At times it was constantly a problem, other times I could go for several months without it being an issue, but as soon as something hurt emotionally it would begin again.When some people realise they are struggling with sexual sin they have prayer and are delivered imm...
And you will be hated by all for my name's sake
by Sarah Sedgwick on July 9th, 2023
This week a friend shared how she has been told by a friend of 20+ years that they can no longer be friends because of her Christian beliefs on homosexual behaviour. To get it clear, my friend has simply responded to a request from her friend to send verses from the Bible which said that homosexual behaviour is sinful. Having shared those verses (as requested) she now finds herself ostracised, d...
And those who walk in pride he is able to humble
by Sarah Sedgwick on June 8th, 2023
Lessons from DanielFor those unfamiliar with Daniel, it’s a great book and well worth a read as it speaks deeply into identity in a broken and unfamiliar world. Chapter 4 tells of the dream of the King, Nebuchadnezzar. This dream shows him as a mighty tree, a tree which provided food and shelter for its people. This tree was visible to the ends of the earth, which speaks of the magnitude of the ...
Where does SSA come from?
by Sarah Sedgwick on May 25th, 2023
In his book “Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Family Healing,” author Richard Cohen lays out his suggestion that there are 10 factors we can look at which may contribute to children developing same sex attraction. Looking at these factors myself, I can also see how some of them may also be factors that are at play when previously heterosexual adults find themselves attracted to the same...
Where do I fit in?
by Sarah Sedgwick on May 15th, 2023
It never fails to sadden me when people who contact the ministry tell me that they are struggling to find a church where they feel welcome and safe to speak of their same sex attraction, whether current or historic. The tendency seems to be that they either find a church that has become inclusive, to the point of celebration of same sex relationships. Or, they find a church where they feel judge...
The problem with labels
by Sarah Sedgwick on April 26th, 2023
This world increasingly encourages us to wear labels, whether it’s our gender, sexuality, relationship status, career or something else. Psychologists would say that we put ourselves in boxes, trying to define who we are. When you introduce yourself to someone, how do you describe yourself? This is an eye opener as to where you see your worth or how you view yourself within society.One label th...
Are you part of the problem?
by Sarah Sedgwick on April 10th, 2023
Psalm 18:16-19He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters. He rescued me from my powerful enemy, from my foes, who were too strong for me. They confronted me in the day of my disaster, but the Lord was my support. He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.Oh that the church would take heed of these verses when it comes to...
Who is your highest authority?
by Sarah Sedgwick on April 3rd, 2023
Acts 5:29 (New Living Translation) tells us that when Peter and the apostles were summoned to the High Priest to answer why they had continued to teach in the name of Jesus, despite being banned, they replied, “We must obey God rather than any human authority.As I read today of the discussions within the Scottish parliament, and recognising that similar conversations are taking place in Wales and ...
What if my teenager comes out as gay?
by Sarah Sedgwick on March 30th, 2023
If your teenager comes out as gay or has already come out as gay then you are not alone in the Christian community, there are many other families who walk the path with you. We have taken some of the advice given on an online Christian peer support group, some from parents who have recently found out their son or daughter is gay, and some from parents who have been dealing with this for many years...
Our default as humans is hell
by Sarah Sedgwick on March 13th, 2023
It’s always a privilege to be asked to speak about my faith and personal testimony, it’s usually the Q & A session that I find the most fun as I get a chance to really hear what’s on people’s hearts. In a couple of weeks I am speaking to a youth group and have been furnished with their questions in advance. One question that popped out of the page to me was this, “Will LGBTQ people go to hell?We...
Truth, turning and transformation
by Sarah Sedgwick on March 6th, 2023
I love delivering the Freedom in Christ course, it has become a key part of the discipleship we offer our group members and it never fails to deliver. On the Freedom in Christ website they highlight three “T’s” that they associate with the course:Truth, turning and transformation.The ten week course gives us space and time to look at the truth of who we are in Christ, and of course the truth that...
Entering into the battle for our children
by Guest Blogger on February 27th, 2023
Ephesians 6: 12-13 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.Bible believing Chri...
What did Jesus say?
by Sarah Sedgwick on February 21st, 2023
What did Jesus say about homosexuality?OK so this is a question we hear all the time, and many people will say that Jesus was silent on this. I disagree with that; Jesus did speak about sexual immorality and I will cover that shortly. But the other day I was reading the book of John and was drawn to the final verse which says, “Jesus did many other things as well. If every one of them were writt...
Affirming, inclusive and progressive (God's better way)
by Sarah Sedgwick on February 11th, 2023
Seeing the Church of England continue to implode this week reminded me of a recent article I wrote about how we can be welcoming to all, without affirming sinful behaviours.Sadly, living in a post Christian society we are challenged to declare our support of, and uphold the personal rights of, everyone and anyone to do life their way. Saying that you’re an affirming, inclusive and progressive chu...
God himself will tend us
by Sarah Sedgwick on February 9th, 2023
This week the Church of England has sent a very stark message to all those who have turned their back on their homosexual past to follow Jesus. By voting to bless same sex marriage they have told us that we were mistaken, that we shouldn’t have picked up our cross and followed Him, that our sacrifice was unnecessary.However, the good news is, we don’t follow a denomination or a church body, we fo...
Do I fit in here?
by Guest Blogger on February 3rd, 2023
There was a time in my life when I was out and proud in the gay community and felt that I actually belonged there. Yet at the same time I didn’t entirely feel like I was meant to be there. I had enough of a Christian upbringing to know the lifestyle I was living wasn’t for me. In church for a long time though, I had also felt very alone and I didn’t feel like I belonged there either. Having same ...
Bowing down to idols
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 31st, 2023
I was deeply saddened this week to read that St Nicholas Church in Leicester has given pride of place (excuse the pun) to the progress pride flag on its altar. The Daily Mail online reports that “Church reverend Canon Karen Rooms claims the huge fabric Progress Pride Flag is merely a way of letting visitors know they are ‘welcome and safe”.I will come back to the ‘welcome and safe’ comment in a m...
Has God shaped you for such a time as this?
by Guest Blogger on January 30th, 2023
25 years ago God spoke to me regarding being involved in a future ministry helping and leading those in the LGBTQ+ to Christ. Little did I know that all those years later how much the world would change and the seed that was sown back in 1997 would start to bear fruit.When I shared this with my Pastor at the time, his reply shocked and hurt me to the core, “Those people can’t be helped.” he said ...
Temptation - attacked by the enemy
by Guest Blogger on January 25th, 2023
Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. James 1:13-14 NKJVThis is a hard topic. Temptation comes to everyone. No one is exempt. We are tempted because the enemy wants nothing more than to destroy what God has created good. Temptation i...
The noisy protest of a small minority
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 21st, 2023
Meeting with a group of like-minded Christians is so refreshing. We are reminded in Proverbs 27 that “Iron sharpens iron” and that is exactly how I feel after each of the weekly TBGL zoom calls that are run by Transformed Ministries. When you chat to a member of the group you will hear them talk about the “transformed family”, a disparate group of individuals who have found their tribe. Our comm...
Prodigal Come Home
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 3rd, 2023
Prodigal come home – the cry of the Father’s heart to the children who were brought up in church, yet have been drawn away by the empty promises of the world.The NLT version of the Bible tells us in Proverbs 22:6 – “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”My personal experience of this is so true. I was brought up in church and taught Biblical tr...
Hope shouts louder
by Sarah Sedgwick on December 20th, 2022
As we get close to a New Year, the words “Hope Shouts Louder” have been placed on my heart. Credit must go to Rebecca Townley and Rosie Godfrey, the authors of “Hope Shouts Louder”, as the title, and content of their book spoke deeply to my heart. The phrase has been rattling around my mind for the past few days and I believe it is a significant message from the Lord for our Ministry and the peo...
Searching for truth
by Sarah Sedgwick on December 14th, 2022
Our TBGL groups are studying the 10 Commandments and it’s refreshing to revisit them with a new lens and see how they should impact our lives today. This week we have been looking at command number 9 - “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour”, which basically is a reminder to be truth tellers in all and every circumstance. The study has opened up conversations around the conc...
Put away the flags!
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 29th, 2022
This week we launched all our training resources on to YouTube. For the full experience, with teaching notes we still recommend that you sign up to our e-learning platform (Click Here). But the main reason for launching to YouTube is to ensure we reach as wide an audience as possible. These videos are aimed at helping churches to assess where they are in terms of how friendly and welcoming they ...
Brotherly Love - the power of prayer
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 23rd, 2022
Never underestimate the power of a praying parent, sister, brother, grandparent or friend. Satan is targeting children of Christian families and luring them away with the promise of fulfilment, acceptance and a new identity that’s applauded and celebrated by the world. We know that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of t...
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 14th, 2022
Transformed Ministries is 3 years old today! We celebrate God’s goodness as we look back and see his hand of blessing over our work. What the enemy meant for harm; God turns around for our good. I see that in so many ways as I look at how this Ministry was conceived, birthed and how it grows. As I hear prophesy speaking into our future as a ministry, I celebrate the love of Jesus for us and th...
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 9th, 2022
I think it’s called righteous anger, but a wave of emotion swept over me as I heard the voice of the Bishop of Oxford calling for the Church of England to accept same sex marriage. I don’t write from a theoretical position, but from one of personal testimony. Having been in a civil partnership with another woman for 16 years, I know what it feels like to centre my identity on my sexuality, and d...
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 28th, 2022
Christian parents sometimes ask us what do they do when their child comes out as gay or Trans? I suggest that two things are essential:Love unconditionallyGo into your prayer closet and start warring in the SpiritIf you think about it, your child has gone through an incredible struggle to get to the point of telling you. They have almost certainly warred with themselves, shed a lot of tears, suf...
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 10th, 2022
As a Ministry there are times when we are accused of being homophobic. This accusation is most often received via social media which provides the safety of anonymity and a lack of personal interaction. Those who meet anyone connected with our ministry would be clear that there is nothing about us at all that could be deemed to be homophobic. So why do we receive this feedback? One of the reason...