Posts with the tag “transformed-by-gods-love”
Not "born this way"
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 8th, 2024
I am reading a fascinating book called Mercy Triumphs over Judgment, by Joanne Highley. Joanne brings so much experience, wisdom, and knowledge to the Christian response to homosexuality. In response to those who suggest that homosexuality is something that we are born with, she comes back with what I feel is the perfect response.“The truth is God would never create people as homosexuals and then ...
Living with an identity you can't walk in
by Sarah Sedgwick on August 31st, 2023
Something has been bothering me for a little while now, and I feel compelled to put some thoughts on paper. You may have heard of side A and side B Christians, terms commonly used to describe the two main approaches to Christian sexuality. Side A promoting the idea that you can be an openly gay Christian, and side B teaching a more traditional biblical sexual ethic, of being same-sex attracted b...
An Uncommon Love
by Sarah Sedgwick on August 24th, 2023
It has been our privilege over the past few weeks to lead two Bible studies from Mary Comm’s book, “Uncommon Love, a Bible study for parents of kids with same-sex attraction.” Whilst both groups had a different dynamic, it was so encouraging to see the growth and change in the parents who have attended. The study is a comprehensive evaluation of scripture, and how it speaks into the way we love ...
TBGL groups, don't take our word for it
by Sarah Sedgwick on August 9th, 2023
What is TBGL and why should I join?TBGL groups meet regularly to study the Bible together, to share testimony of how God is working in our lives, to wrestle over some difficult topics, and to pray for each other, encouraging each other through the ups and downs of life. The one thing that we all have in common is that we have walked through sexual brokenness or are close friends or family members...
Overcoming sexual sin
by Guest Blogger on July 31st, 2023
I struggled for many years with sexual sin. It was my “go to” way for comforting myself each time I struggled with emotional pain. At times it was constantly a problem, other times I could go for several months without it being an issue, but as soon as something hurt emotionally it would begin again.When some people realise they are struggling with sexual sin they have prayer and are delivered imm...
And those who walk in pride he is able to humble
by Sarah Sedgwick on June 8th, 2023
Lessons from DanielFor those unfamiliar with Daniel, it’s a great book and well worth a read as it speaks deeply into identity in a broken and unfamiliar world. Chapter 4 tells of the dream of the King, Nebuchadnezzar. This dream shows him as a mighty tree, a tree which provided food and shelter for its people. This tree was visible to the ends of the earth, which speaks of the magnitude of the ...
Where does SSA come from?
by Sarah Sedgwick on May 25th, 2023
In his book “Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Family Healing,” author Richard Cohen lays out his suggestion that there are 10 factors we can look at which may contribute to children developing same sex attraction. Looking at these factors myself, I can also see how some of them may also be factors that are at play when previously heterosexual adults find themselves attracted to the same...
Where do I fit in?
by Sarah Sedgwick on May 15th, 2023
It never fails to sadden me when people who contact the ministry tell me that they are struggling to find a church where they feel welcome and safe to speak of their same sex attraction, whether current or historic. The tendency seems to be that they either find a church that has become inclusive, to the point of celebration of same sex relationships. Or, they find a church where they feel judge...
The problem with labels
by Sarah Sedgwick on April 26th, 2023
This world increasingly encourages us to wear labels, whether it’s our gender, sexuality, relationship status, career or something else. Psychologists would say that we put ourselves in boxes, trying to define who we are. When you introduce yourself to someone, how do you describe yourself? This is an eye opener as to where you see your worth or how you view yourself within society.One label th...
Are you part of the problem?
by Sarah Sedgwick on April 10th, 2023
Psalm 18:16-19He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters. He rescued me from my powerful enemy, from my foes, who were too strong for me. They confronted me in the day of my disaster, but the Lord was my support. He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.Oh that the church would take heed of these verses when it comes to...
What if my teenager comes out as gay?
by Sarah Sedgwick on March 30th, 2023
If your teenager comes out as gay or has already come out as gay then you are not alone in the Christian community, there are many other families who walk the path with you. We have taken some of the advice given on an online Christian peer support group, some from parents who have recently found out their son or daughter is gay, and some from parents who have been dealing with this for many years...
Our default as humans is hell
by Sarah Sedgwick on March 13th, 2023
It’s always a privilege to be asked to speak about my faith and personal testimony, it’s usually the Q & A session that I find the most fun as I get a chance to really hear what’s on people’s hearts. In a couple of weeks I am speaking to a youth group and have been furnished with their questions in advance. One question that popped out of the page to me was this, “Will LGBTQ people go to hell?We...
Affirming, inclusive and progressive (God's better way)
by Sarah Sedgwick on February 11th, 2023
Seeing the Church of England continue to implode this week reminded me of a recent article I wrote about how we can be welcoming to all, without affirming sinful behaviours.Sadly, living in a post Christian society we are challenged to declare our support of, and uphold the personal rights of, everyone and anyone to do life their way. Saying that you’re an affirming, inclusive and progressive chu...
God himself will tend us
by Sarah Sedgwick on February 9th, 2023
This week the Church of England has sent a very stark message to all those who have turned their back on their homosexual past to follow Jesus. By voting to bless same sex marriage they have told us that we were mistaken, that we shouldn’t have picked up our cross and followed Him, that our sacrifice was unnecessary.However, the good news is, we don’t follow a denomination or a church body, we fo...
Do I fit in here?
by Guest Blogger on February 3rd, 2023
There was a time in my life when I was out and proud in the gay community and felt that I actually belonged there. Yet at the same time I didn’t entirely feel like I was meant to be there. I had enough of a Christian upbringing to know the lifestyle I was living wasn’t for me. In church for a long time though, I had also felt very alone and I didn’t feel like I belonged there either. Having same ...
Bowing down to idols
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 31st, 2023
I was deeply saddened this week to read that St Nicholas Church in Leicester has given pride of place (excuse the pun) to the progress pride flag on its altar. The Daily Mail online reports that “Church reverend Canon Karen Rooms claims the huge fabric Progress Pride Flag is merely a way of letting visitors know they are ‘welcome and safe”.I will come back to the ‘welcome and safe’ comment in a m...
Has God shaped you for such a time as this?
by Guest Blogger on January 30th, 2023
25 years ago God spoke to me regarding being involved in a future ministry helping and leading those in the LGBTQ+ to Christ. Little did I know that all those years later how much the world would change and the seed that was sown back in 1997 would start to bear fruit.When I shared this with my Pastor at the time, his reply shocked and hurt me to the core, “Those people can’t be helped.” he said ...
Temptation - attacked by the enemy
by Guest Blogger on January 25th, 2023
Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. James 1:13-14 NKJVThis is a hard topic. Temptation comes to everyone. No one is exempt. We are tempted because the enemy wants nothing more than to destroy what God has created good. Temptation i...
The noisy protest of a small minority
by Sarah Sedgwick on January 21st, 2023
Meeting with a group of like-minded Christians is so refreshing. We are reminded in Proverbs 27 that “Iron sharpens iron” and that is exactly how I feel after each of the weekly TBGL zoom calls that are run by Transformed Ministries. When you chat to a member of the group you will hear them talk about the “transformed family”, a disparate group of individuals who have found their tribe. Our comm...
Searching for truth
by Sarah Sedgwick on December 14th, 2022
Our TBGL groups are studying the 10 Commandments and it’s refreshing to revisit them with a new lens and see how they should impact our lives today. This week we have been looking at command number 9 - “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour”, which basically is a reminder to be truth tellers in all and every circumstance. The study has opened up conversations around the conc...
Sticks and stones
by Sarah Sedgwick on December 2nd, 2022
“Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.” Matthew 5:11This week I received another unprovoked rant against the ministry, accusing us of being liars, of lying to ourselves, of being ignorant, hateful bigots and being told in no uncertain terms where to go. This person sent a message via our Instagram account and had clearly...
Put away the flags!
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 29th, 2022
This week we launched all our training resources on to YouTube. For the full experience, with teaching notes we still recommend that you sign up to our e-learning platform (Click Here). But the main reason for launching to YouTube is to ensure we reach as wide an audience as possible. These videos are aimed at helping churches to assess where they are in terms of how friendly and welcoming they ...
Brotherly Love - the power of prayer
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 23rd, 2022
Never underestimate the power of a praying parent, sister, brother, grandparent or friend. Satan is targeting children of Christian families and luring them away with the promise of fulfilment, acceptance and a new identity that’s applauded and celebrated by the world. We know that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of t...
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 14th, 2022
Transformed Ministries is 3 years old today! We celebrate God’s goodness as we look back and see his hand of blessing over our work. What the enemy meant for harm; God turns around for our good. I see that in so many ways as I look at how this Ministry was conceived, birthed and how it grows. As I hear prophesy speaking into our future as a ministry, I celebrate the love of Jesus for us and th...
For such a time as this
by Sarah Sedgwick on November 1st, 2022
This weekend, members of the TBGL group will be flying in from around the world to attend our second annual retreat and we are delighted to have an opportunity to worship, learn, and grow together. Some outsiders have asked us what the group all about; the question either asked out of genuine interest, or as a more veiled question, suggesting perhaps that our group constitutes so called “conversio...
Healthy Same Sex Friendships
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 19th, 2022
This week our TBGL peer groups are talking about healthy same sex friendships. It’s something we don’t often talk about; perhaps we consider it a non-issue or perhaps we are slightly embarrassed about our lack of close and intimate relationships with those of the same sex?On personal reflection, I recognise that I often put up barriers to becoming close to another woman. It’s not a sexual thing,...
Wake up Church
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 3rd, 2022
There are still many churches who preach and uphold the word of God on sexuality; sadly far fewer than were doing so a decade ago. How do these churches remain aware of the “leaven” and protect themselves from being tainted by the false teaching that is so prevalent today?One of the things that is essential is not to sit back and do nothing. Members of our congregations live in the world and the ...
Baptise them in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit
by Sarah Sedgwick on October 1st, 2022
Baptisms are such special occasions, so it was with joy that we learned that one of our Transformed International members, and key contributor to the Rev12 Project, got baptised at a conference this weekend. Katrina has only been a Christian for a year, yet one read of her devotions included in the Rev12 Project give you a clear idea of the amazing work God has done in her life in such a short s...